Beautiful women (9s and 10s) endure a daily stream of awkward moments when otherwise harmless guys say, “Where are you from?” “What’s your name?” and, “You’re beautiful.” Many women have developed the ability to make these guys go away by being a bitch, and it works. Are beautiful women really bitches? Doubtful. The truth is, many of my girlfriends were both beautiful and warm… once I worked through their initial defenses with the judicious use of negs.
If a woman doesn’t develop strategies for quickly dismissing this daily barrage of bore, she’ll find herself trapped in conversations with just about anyone, even those with little survival and replication value. After all, until you DHV, you can’t expect a girl to feel you have any value anyway. Remember, you must first create a social opportunity to DHV before judgment can be made by your target.
Women who are 9s and 10s find themselves saying no to men with such regularity that when they finally meet a man who has legitimate value for them, they may, on reflex, respond abrasively. There is a silver lining to this dark cloud, however: Hot women say no so often that when they do meet someone they deem to have high value, yes means, Yes! Finally! In today’s social environment, beautiful women have to become very good at brushing off men. After all, they’re not going to sleep with every one of the men.
They may say no, act annoyed, or use some other shielding mechanism. Many poor guys are left walking off angry and feeling like a failure, thinking a woman is a bitch for rejecting them harshly. If a woman accepts a beer from you when you have just met, the underlying social dynamic translates to, “I don’t know you, and I don’t care about you. You are just another one of those typical guys and since I don’t respect you, I’ll take that beer before I snub you.” Her train of thought reads, If the guys are stupid enough to buy me drinks, I’m smart enough to take them. Hot girls are good at snubbing your approach.
You will have to learn how to snub them back. Now that doesn’t mean you should insult them. They are accustomed to the men they’ve hurt saying, “You are nothing but a bitch!” So how do you snub a hot girl back without insulting her? Let’s imagine for a moment that a girl has long nails, which in today’s society are often acrylic. The Venusian artist approaches and says, “Nice nails. Are they real?” She will have to concede they aren’t. Like he didn’t notice the question was a put-down, he says, “Oh [Pause.] Well, I guess they still look good.” He then casually turns his back to her for a moment.
What does this do to her? Immediately she will feel like she just lost value in his eyes. But he didn’t treat her like shit by insulting her. That only would have made her defend herself with more snubs or walk away. Instead, he complimented her, but the result was to target her insecurity. Her train of thought reads, I’m beautiful… but I didn’t win this guy over. Why not? I’m so good at this. I’ll just fix his perception of me.
Everyone wants me. He continues to show a lack of interest in her looks and initiates a neutral topic. During this time, her intention is to get him to conform so she can feel in control. Once revalidated, she can shut him down and move on. Before this can happen, though, he gives her another neg. “Is that a hairpiece? Well, it’s nice. This hairstyle should be called the Waffle.” He smiles playfully and stacks to another routine. He is pleasant but uninterested in her beauty. This intrigues her because she knows how most men behave and this isn’t normal for her. This man must be used to girls, or married (preselected), or something. These questions make her curious. She gives him little negs, which she uses to test for congruence. He passes these by lightly negging her back. He pauses in a story to say, “Ah, that’s so funny! Your nose wiggles when you speak. Look, there it goes again. Ha!” She blushes. Now she is self-conscious—and this is where he wants her. He has, with only three negs, successfully created interest and removed her from her pedestal, thereby circumventing her protection shield and buying himself more time to DHV.
A neg is not an insult but a negative social value judgment that is telegraphed. It’s the same as if you pulled out a tissue and blew your nose. There’s nothing insulting about blowing your nose. You haven’t explicitly rejected her. But at the same time, she will feel that you aren’t even trying to impress her.
This makes her curious as to why and makes you a challenge. Examples: “Too bad I’m gay,” “Where’s your off button?” “No touchy,” “I’ve eaten girls like you for breakfast.” Generally, I found me better looking the woman, the more aggressive your negs will need to be. A 10 may get three negs up front in quick succession just for being beautiful, while an 8 gets only one or two.
You can go overboard if she thinks you think you are better than her (which happens more often that you’d expect). Not only is it cruel to drop a woman’s self-esteem out from under her (regardless of the fact that most 10s will readily do this to guys), but not — too — surprisingly, it doesn’t get you the girl. Get as close to the breaking point as you can without crossing the line.
When you reach the point where she is about to retaliate, start appreciating things about her (but not her looks). Mutual respect has formed, and respect is something men rarely get from a girl in the field. If you do accidentally offend her completely and she complains about your behavior (this isn’t recommended, but it also doesn’t necessarily preclude you from mating), allow her to vent her emotions by voicing her opinion of you entirely first.
Then say, “I’m monumentally sorry. I didn’t mean to step over your boundaries. I merely intended to find them. Now that I know where they are, I promise … I will not cross them again. I’m sorry.” From there, the Game is on. Hot girls can be opened with a neg. Pepper three of them into two to three minutes of neutral chat, and once the protection shield is removed, you can, from a place of mutual respect, built comfort with the girl.