What you are after as a seducer is the ability to move people in the direction you want them to go. But the game is perilous; the moment they suspect they are acting under your influence, they will become resentful.
Anti-Seducers come in many shapes and kinds, but almost all of them share a single attribute, the source of their repellence: insecurity. We are all insecure, and we suffer for it. Yet we are able to surmount these feelings at times; a seductive engagement can bring us out of our usual selfabsorption, and to the... Continue Reading →
In the year 1425, Joan of Arc, a peasant girl from the French village of Domrémy, had her first vision: "I was in my thirteenth year when God sent a voice to guide me." The voice was that of Saint Michael and he came with a message from God: Joan had been chosen to rid... Continue Reading →
Sexuality is extremely disruptive. The insecurities and emotions it stirs up can often cut short a relationship that would otherwise be deeper and longer lasting. The Charmer's solution is to fulfill the aspects of sexuality that are so alluring and addictive—the focused attention, the boosted self-esteem, the pleasurable wooing, the understanding (real or illusory)—but subtract... Continue Reading →
As a child growing up in England, Charlie Chaplin spent years in dire poverty, particularly after his mother was committed to an asylum. In his early teens, forced to work to live, he landed a job in vaudeville, eventually gaining some success as a comedian. But Chaplin was wildly ambitious, and so, in 1910, when... Continue Reading →
"I want you to know that I'm really uncomfortable with that thing we talked about last week." Lars, an anxiety-filled executive, began his second session of counseling with this statement. Lars had come to see me on the encouragement of his wife. He reported being generally depressed and unhappy for as long as he could... Continue Reading →
There is a point in an interaction where a woman makes the choice between seeing you as a friend or as a possible romantic interest.You need to be able to spice things up at this point to avoid going down the friend route. Over time and without any pre-planning, I developed my other two characters,... Continue Reading →
Prepare to go weak at the knees ladies, because George Clooney just got even more dreamy. You didn't think it was possible did you? Well it is and here's the evidence. The 53-year-old proved himself to be the best prom date ever - even 30-plus years since his actual high school dance - when he paid a... Continue Reading →
Most Nice Guys initially come to counseling to deal with the way their life paradigm is affecting their intimate relationships. These relationship problems often overshadow the reality that they are equally dissatisfied with their job, career, or life direction in general.
Not everybody’s built for meeting women at bars and clubs. But when you see story after story about douchebags harassing women in the street and all the times when you shouldn’t approach women, trying meeting women anywhere else can feel like you’re tap-dancing through a minefield. There’s the understandable desire to not be a creeper on top of the anxiety that comes... Continue Reading →