If you don’t think you’re worthy of the girl you’re hitting on, she isn’t going to find you worthy of dating. If you don’t believe your own value as a human being and potential partner are worth more than her’s, then you’re basically begging her to do you the favor of dating you. Women aren’t into charity when it comes to dating.
If you say, “a woman would never date me because I’m fat.” Then you’re right, she won’t. Not particularly because you’re fat, but because you don’t think she wants to date fat men. Which means you’re automatically assuming your value is less than hers. Which means you perceive your own worth as being less than hers. Speaking of fatties dating hotties, check this out. And hey, may be you’re not fat, you just look like a nerdy idiot with no sense of style – watch a nerd pull multiple hotties here.
f you say, “a woman would never date me because I’m a short balding Asian man.” Then you’re right, she won’t. Why should she? Why should she date a guy who doesn’t believe he’s worthy of her? There’s no way it will ever happen. Speaking of short guys, here’s a great article about a 43 year old womanizing jockey who likes to date 19 year olds. Here’s another oneabout a womanizing 3’11” midget with a 5’8″ wife, 14 years his junior.
The very fact you’re reading this article tells me you have self-worth issues. How did you end up on this page? What were you looking for? Were you looking for validation of what you already believe? Are you looking for me to tell you that being ugly is what’s stopping you from getting a date?
Imagine this scenario. You see the hottest girl you’ve ever seen in your life standing in the produce isle of your local supermarket. Are you afraid to hit on her? Do you see yourself getting shot down brutally, so why even bother? Because if you do, then you shouldn’t bother, because it’s never going to work. You’ll just act like a terrified dork, which might be endearing but definitely not sex worthy. If you’re just trying to be her friend, then that’s all you’ll ever be.
The only thing that matters is self-worth. Big fat ugly guys date hot women. Short balding Asians date hot women. And sometimes good looking GQ models end up marrying fatties. Why? Because some guys value themselves highly and some don’t. Women never trade down when it comes to value. They only date men whose value is higher than their own.
The beautiful and terrible thing about this is that the value women judge you on has very little to do with anything that is external to yourself. Sure, being rich helps, being good looking helps, being tall helps, having a full head of hair helps, etc.. etc.. etc.. But you could have all these things and still fail when it comes to dating if you don’t perceive your own value as being higher than the girl you’re hitting on.
Of course, simply saying that self-worth is the only thing that matters doesn’t give you anything tangible that you can use to improve your interactions, so here’s an anecdote to give you a little example of what that means in a practical application.